My First time in a bridal shop.
Okay, so on this occasion I wasn’t actually a bridesmaid, but I have been a couple of times before. A few of months ago I accompanied a friend wedding dress shopping. [This was the very friend who informed me of her engagement while I was filming a video about online dating..Imagine that!]. She is now married. It was an interesting experience as I had never stepped foot in a Bridal Shop before then. Usually, I’d just walk past them with little to no thought. We visited at least 4 shops that day, as I assumed the responsibility of ‘dress critique’.
BUT, I want to be the bride!
I can understand how events like entering a bridal shop can make you, as a woman desiring marriage for yourself, feel uncomfortable. Of course, you would ideally love to be shopping for your own dress, however, being supportive is important too, especially when your presence is genuinely needed and wanted. And hopefully, that support you give will be returned when your time comes around.
Being truly happy & supportive for others
Although I’ve always desired marriage from a young age, MY wedding day has always seemed like a distant fantasy to me. Intangible. To this day, marriage is still somewhat of an illusion, though I fully believe in the possibility of it. Sometimes, I even think marriage is ‘a thing other people do’. However, One thing I’ve always been able to find, is the strength to be happy for others when they find true love. I find hope in knowing God can work romantic wonders in the lives of others.
If God can do it for her, then why not you?
When you feel you want what she has, just realise, what she has is for her. It’s her story. What is yours, will be yours in good time. It will be your story. All we ever see is the glossy finish of marriage and never the grubby groundwork. People struggle and make huge sacrifices. That being said, don’t loose hope just because you aren’t there yet. When the right man comes along, you will realise why God kept you single for so long. If God can do it her, then why not you?
Now, when will I get married?
I used to think I would marry the first person that came along! Until I realised how unrealistic that was. Love is so multi-dimensional. There’s a formula for it, then again, there is no formula. It’s a numbers game, then again, it’s all about being specific and knowing EXACTLY what you want.
The answer to that question, It may be months or years from now, but the wait shouldn’t stop you from living a full life. You will get married in God’s perfect time. If you desire marriage then why shouldn’t you get it?! Stay hopeful, prayerful & loving your life! P.s. Being a bridesmaid isn’t so bad. You get to meet all the groomsmen and take your pick *wink😉*.
Do you ever get tired of being a bridesmaid or wedding guest? What are your thoughts?
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