1) Being alone doesn’t equal loneliness.
I used to struggle with loneliness and certain people used to make fun of me for being alone, while at school. Not in the sense of being single, but just being alone. A lot of the time I would spend my lunches practicing the piano, or doing art work. I’m so thankful for the rejection I experienced because it has helped me embrace a lifestyle of ACTUALLY enjoying my own company. It’s made me independent to a degree.
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2) I have learnt to love and embrace new environments.
Being in a different city or place where you can meet people with a different culture, upbringing outlook on life and accent is great and gives you the opportunity to be authentically you without fear of judgement.
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3) You don’t have to marry the first person you ‘Feel’ you love/like.
The hope and faith that got you that person, can get you another person, so don’t be scared to be single again if that relationship or situation-ship doesn’t end in marriage.
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4) If you aren’t naturally lucky in love. It’s perfectly fine to engineer it.
One thing people don’t realise is that love can be created and love is a choice – you don’t just feel it into existence. If you know you aren’t naturally lucky in love, find ways to create opportunities. Prayer is actually a form of love engineering because you are calling upon a greater power for intercession – as opposed to feeling lost while waiting without any idea of when it will happen. Some might say avoiding the topic is a way to allow God to take control, but I say by praying, you are engineering love to an extent.
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5) It’s okay to desire love.
This point speaks for itself. It’s okay to desire love and the God designed institution of marriage. Nobody should ever make you feel guilty about that.
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6) Uncertainty is lesson to embrace.
Sometimes I do feel uncertain. Sometimes in a bad way, but often in a good way too. Uncertainty has the potential to teach and push you to make decisions. It can help you explore your options, drive you out of your comfort zone AND into a zone of growth. Plus the in Jeremiah 29:11 it says – For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. So, even if you are uncertain, God isn’t.
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7) Makes you adaptable.
Sometimes you have to do things alone and go to places alone. When single, you just get used to it. It makes you more creative, a better problem solver and increases your capacity!
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What has being single while desiring marriage taught you over the years? Leave your comments below.
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