1.Positive thinking. Get your positioning right.
I’ll be the first to admit, sometimes I find myself uttering words that provide me with momentary reasoning and solace. For example, “Men generally don’t like me”. It gives me an answer, but I know it isn’t true and it certainly isn’t a healthy thought process. What frees me, is changing my positioning both mentally and physically. I have been able to gain perspective on situational difficulties simply by challenging my mindset and changing my situation. Different thoughts. Different place. Different feeling.
Sometimes, you may be going through something simply because you in the wrong place – The wrong situation.
Physically. If your environment is a bit off, try to change it. You may just be in the wrong place. Maybe it’s your home, maybe your city, or maybe a place you got to frequently and always come back feeling negative. Be conscious and in tune with how a place makes you feel.
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Spiritually. Spend time with God. Let him speak to you. Let him reveal things to you. If you struggle to hear from God, meditate on some scriptures that highlight the promises already set in writing for you.
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Mentally. If you are always having negative thoughts, consider what you are taking in. Are there negative people around you? Do you absorb negative comments. Turn it around and change what you consume. Practice gratefulness and positivity every day and spend time with people who you feel effortlessly happy!
2.Embrace your desires
I know, I know, we’ve heard it all before, “Marriage isn’t everything”, “Don’t make marriage an idol”, but as human beings designed and created by God, we naturally desire marriage. As time has progressed, I’ve realised how important it is to acknowledge desires. Single women are often encouraged to seek first the Kingdom of God, but as human beings we should be free to feel things so we don’t become suppressed and emotionless.
That being said, I’m not just talking about the desire of marriage. I’m talking about goals and aspirations. If there has been something on your heart, go after it. When you’re doing things that you love to do, you’ll be happy. Never feel like you are being selfish for going on a holiday, or buying a new gadget, or taking a class that will enrich your life. Sometimes treating yourself in a way people may never understand is exactly what you need. This is a good time to learn about what you like – and let it make you happy.
3. Try new things
Remember I mentioned ‘situational difficulties’ in the first point. Well, sometimes it’s easy to get stuck in a rut simply because of a routine that never changes. Try something new! It may be the very thing you need to shake up your day/your week/your life and get you motivated to venture in an unknown area. An easy way to kickstart trying something new would be to switch up something in your every day life. Instead of having oats porridge for breakfast, have a smoothie. Instead of going to the gym to workout, try attending a local, or not so local fitness class. Instead of a coffee at Starbucks, try out an independent cafe.
“Stepping outside of your comfort zone.”
When you make little decisions to try new things, you are challenging yourself to develop interests and training your mind to go against the grain. You never know who you’ll meet along the way, or what you’ll learn. It’s also important to be expectant and open to what stepping outside of your comfort zone will bring you. Good and uncomfortable. That way, you have a refreshed mindset and feelings of uncomfortability actually give you comfort and act as progress markers in your life.
They very thing you need and/or want may be in that area of discomfort.
And there’s something satisfying about challenging yourself to go out there and get it for the sake of a happier you!
Can you think of other ways to be happy while single and waiting for marriage?
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Jus what every Godly Woman & man needs to know. Marriage is not a reward for staying pure (virgin) and walking holy, this is a requirement of God through his word that we should gladly live out because we wish to please him above all else.